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Helping Teens Make Healthy and Responsible Decisions about Sex

June 16, 2008

Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Education Censors Vital Health Care Information, Jeopardizing Teenagers’ Health

Evidence shows that stressing the importance of waiting to have sex while providing accurate, age-appropriate, and complete information about how to use contraceptives can help teens delay sex and reduce sexual risk taking. Yet there is currently no federal program dedicated to supporting this approach. Instead, since 1996, the federal government has funneled more than a billion dollars into abstinence-only-until-marriage programming, even in the face of clear evidence that these programs do not work.

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In addition to censoring vital health care information, abstinence-only-until-marriage programs raise other serious civil liberties concerns: they create a hostile environment for gay and lesbian teens; reinforce gender stereotypes; and in some instances use taxpayer dollars to promote one religious perspective.

Below is an in-depth discussion of the problems raised by federal abstinence-only-until-marriage programs.

Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Censor Vital Health Care Information

Currently, there are three federal programs dedicated to funding abstinence-only-until-marriage programs.[1] Each requires eligible grantees to censor critical information that teens need to make healthy and responsible life decisions.

To receive funds under any of the federal programs, grantees must offer curricula that have as their “exclusive purpose” teaching the benefits of abstinence.[2]  In addition, recipients of abstinence-only-until-marriage dollars may not advocate contraceptive use or teach contraceptive methods except to emphasize their failure rates.[3] Thus, recipients of federal abstinence-only-until-marriage funds operate under a gag order that censors vitally needed information. Grantees are forced either to omit any mention of topics such as contraception, abortion, homosexuality, and AIDS or to present these subjects in an incomplete and thus inaccurate fashion.[4]

Research Shows that Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Don’t Work

A rigorous, multi-year, scientific evaluation authorized by Congress and released in April 2007 presents clear evidence that abstinence-only-until-marriage programs don’t work. The study by Mathematica Policy Research, Inc., which looked at four federally funded programs and studied more than 2,000 students, found that abstinence-only program participants were just as likely to have sex before marriage as teens who did not participate. Furthermore, program participants had first intercourse at the same mean age and the same number of sexual partners as teens who did not participate in the federally funded programs.[5]

In addition, an academic study of virginity pledge programs—which encourage students to make a pledge to abstain from sex until marriage and are often a component of abstinence-only-until-marriage curricula—found that while in limited circumstances virginity-pledgers may delay first intercourse, they still have sex before marriage and are less likely than non-pledgers to use contraception at first intercourse and to get tested for STDs when they become sexually active.[6]

On the other hand, there is ample evidence that programs that include information about both waiting to have sex and effective contraceptive use can help delay sex and reduce sexual risk taking among teens. Many of these programs have been shown to significantly delay the initiation of sex, reduce the frequency of sex, reduce the number of sexual partners, and increase condom or contraceptive use among sexually active teens.[7] Research also shows that sex education curricula that discuss contraception—by presenting accurate information about contraceptive options, effectiveness, and use—do not increase sexual activity.[8]

Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Withhold Information Teens Need to Make Healthy and Responsible Life Decisions

Abstinence-only-until-marriage programs are increasingly replacing other forms of sex education in schools. Between 1995 and 2002, “[t]he proportion of adolescents who had received any formal instruction about methods of birth control declined significantly,” and by 2002, one-third of adolescents had not received any instruction on contraception.[9] At the same time, in 1999, 23 percent of secondary school sexuality education teachers taught abstinence as the only way of avoiding STDs and pregnancy, up from 2 percent in 1988.[10]  When abstinence-only-until-marriage programs do present information about pregnancy prevention and testing and treatment of STDs, they do so incompletely and/or inaccurately. For example, a 2004 congressional report concluded that many federally funded abstinence-only-until-marriage curricula “misrepresent the effectiveness of condoms in preventing sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy” by exaggerating their failure rates.[11]

We need to help teenagers make healthy and responsible life decisions by giving them full and accurate information about the transmission and treatment of STDs, and how to use contraception effectively. Abstinence-only-until-marriage programs jeopardize the health of sexually active teens and leave those who become sexually active unprepared.

Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Create a Hostile Environment for Lesbian and Gay Teens

Many abstinence-only-until-marriage programs use curricula that discriminate against gay and lesbian students and stigmatize homosexuality. The federal guidelines governing these programs state that they must teach that a “mutually faithful monogamous relationship in [the] context of marriage is the expected standard of human sexual activity.”[12]  In a society that generally prohibits gays and lesbians from marrying, such a message rejects the idea of sexual intimacy for lesbians and gays and ignores their need for critical information about protecting themselves from STDs in same-sex relationships.

A review of the leading abstinence-only-until-marriage curricula found that most address same-sex sexual behavior only within the context of promiscuity and disease, and several are overtly hostile to lesbians and gay men.[13]  For example, materials from an abstinence-only-until-marriage program used recently in Alabama include the following: “[S]ame sex ‘unions’ cannot provide an adequate means of achieving a genuine physical relationship with another human being because this type of ‘union’ is contrary to the laws of nature.”[14]

By talking only about sex within marriage and teaching about STDs as a form of moral punishment for homosexuality, abstinence-only-until-marriage programs not only undermine efforts to educate teens about protecting their health, but create a hostile learning environment for lesbian and gay students and the children of lesbian and gay and/or single parents.

Many Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Feature Harmful Gender Stereotypes

In addition to featuring false and misleading information, many abstinence-only-until-marriage programs present stereotypes about men and women as scientific facts. In an attempt to demonstrate differences between men and women, one popular program, WAIT Training, instructs teachers to “[b]ring to class frozen waffles and a bowl of spaghetti noodles without sauce. Using these as visual aids, explain how research has found that men’s brains are more like the waffle, in that their design enables them to more easily compartmentalize information. Women’s minds, on the other hand, are interrelated due to increased brain connectors.”[15]  Similarly, the teacher’s manual for Why Know Abstinence Education Programs suggests that girls are responsible for boys’ inability to control their sexual urges: “One subtle form of pressure can be the way in which a girl acts toward her boyfriend. If the girlfriend is constantly touching him and pressing against him, or wearing clothing which is tight or revealing of her body, this will cause the guy to think more about her body than her person, and he may be incited toward more sexual thoughts.”[16]

Many abstinence-only-until-marriage programs are riddled with similarly troubling discussions of gender. Such stereotypes and false information undermine women’s equality and promote an outmoded and discredited view of women’s and men’s roles and abilities.

Some Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs Use Taxpayer Dollars to Promote One Religious Perspective

Although the U.S. Constitution guarantees that the government will neither promote nor interfere with religious belief, some abstinence-only-until-marriage grantees violate this core freedom by using public dollars to convey overt religious messages or to impose religious viewpoints. The ACLU has successfully challenged this misuse of taxpayer dollars:

In May 2005, the ACLU filed a lawsuit challenging the federally funded promotion of religion by a nationwide abstinence-only-until-marriage program called the Silver Ring Thing. The program was rife with religion. In its own words, “The mission of Silver Ring is to saturate the United States with a generation of young people who have taken a vow of sexual abstinence until marriage … . This mission can only be achieved by offering a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as the best way to live a sexually pure life.”[17]  The lawsuit, ACLU of Massachusetts v. Leavitt, brought swift results: In August 2005, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) suspended the Silver Ring Thing’s funding, pending corrective or other action. And in February 2006, the parties reached a settlement in which HHS agreed that any future funding would be contingent on the Silver Ring Thing’s compliance with federal law prohibiting the use of federal funds to support religious activities. Soon after, HHS released new guidelines for all abstinence-only-until-marriage grantees to ensure that government funds will not be used to promote religion. These guidelines were modeled after the settlement agreement in ACLU of Massachusetts v. Leavitt.

In 2002, the ACLU challenged the use of taxpayer dollars to support religious activities in the Louisiana Governor’s Program on Abstinence (GPA), a program run on federal and state funds. Over the course of several years, the GPA had funded programs that, among other things, presented “Christ-centered” theater skits, held a religious youth revival, and produced radio shows that “share abstinence as part of the gospel message.”[18]  In violation of the Constitution, a federal district court found that GPA funds were being used to convey religious messages and advance religion. The court ordered Louisiana officials to stop this misuse of taxpayer dollars. The case was on appeal when the parties settled. The GPA agreed to closely monitor the activities of the programs it funds and to stop using GPA dollars to “convey religious messages or otherwise advance religion in any way.”[19]

Parents, Teachers, and Major Medical Groups Support Comprehensive Sexuality Education

The vast majority of U.S. parents, teachers, and leading medical groups believe that teens should receive complete and accurate information about delaying sexual activity and contraception.

  • In a nationwide poll conducted in 2004 for the Kaiser Family Foundation, National Public Radio, and the Kennedy School of Government, researchers found that an overwhelming majority of parents want sex education curricula to cover topics such as abortion and sexual orientation, as well as how to use and where to get contraceptives, including condoms.[20]
  • A 1999 nationally representative survey of 7th-12th grade teachers in the five specialties most often responsible for sex education found that a strong majority believed that sexuality education courses should cover birth control methods (93.4%), factual information about abortion (89%), where to go for birth control (88.8%), the correct way to use a condom (82%), and sexual orientation (77.8%), among other topics.[21]
  • Similarly, major medical organizations have advocated for and/or endorsed comprehensive sexuality education, including the American Medical Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, and the Society for Adolescent Medicine.[22]

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Sex Poems (by adio214)

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Guidelines for Teens: Thinking About Sexuality and Sexual Activitygray lineSeptember 2000transparent gifLynn E. Ponton, University of California San Franciscotransparent giftransparent gif

  1. All teens have sexual lives, whether with others or through fantasies. An important part of adolescence is thinking about and experimenting with aspects of your sexuality. This will help you to grow and discover who you are.
  2. An important part of your sexuality is physical changes your body goes through, for example, puberty, which includes the onset of the first menstrual period for girls, and the first emission of semen for boys. Because of changes in nutrition, these changes in your bodies occur at earlier ages than they did for your parents.
  3. Many teens are physically ready for sexual activity before they are emotionally ready. It is important to think, learn, and plan for sexual activity.
  4. There are many risks connected with sexual activity, including healthy ones — for example, feeling close to another person, enjoying physical pleasure, and learning about yourself; and unhealthy ones — for example, becoming pregnant or getting someone else pregnant; or catching a sexually transmitted disease such as herpes, venereal warts, or HIV, among others.
  5. Sexual intercourse of any type — vaginal, anal, or even oral — can transmit disease. It is important to learn the rules for safer sex and to be able to talk and negotiate with your sex partner in order to protect yourself.
  6. Some of the red flags that indicate that you are involved in dangerous sexual risk-taking include participating in unprotected intercourse or having sexual relationships in which you do not trust your partner, or feel victimized or abused, or feel that you are abusing or victimizing someone else. If you are in any of these situations, it is important to ask for help.
  7. Try to speak directly with your parents or other adults about sex, using simple language to describe both your feelings and activities. Remember that most adults, including your parents, are often more embarrassed than you are.
  8. Sexuality is confusing for children, teens, and adults alike. There are extremes in our culture, with some believing that teens should not be feeling or acting sexually, and others projecting images of teen sexuality in ways that make you think all teens are sexually active. It is important to think about sex carefully, and develop your own ideas.
  9. Before you become sexually active, it is important to prepare by learning about your own body, committing to safer sex, and maybe even role-playing tough situations so that you are ready to protect yourself when the time comes. “Sexual readiness” means more than whether your body is physically ready or able to have sex. Please see the questions about sexual readiness in this Appendix.
  10. Respect your body and the bodies of others. Do not force yourself or others into any sexual activity, not matter what you may already have experienced with that person. Learn about what it really means to give consent for sexual activity, and think about it both for yourself and any potential partner. It is important to think carefully about how you treat yourself and others in any form of sexual activity.

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The Taboo of Senior Sexuality

John DeLamater teaches a University of Madison (Wis.) sociology course called “Intimate Relationships,” during which he shows a movie called “Tonight’s the Night.” The film depicts three couples, all in their 60s, having either “a very nice romantic relationship,” or sex.

"Here are these six regular people hugging and kissing and crying and talking about each other, and at the end, this one couple climbs into bed, and it just blows the students away," DeLamater says.

Many have no image of their own parents as sexual, much less their grandparents.

"Ours is still a youth-oriented society, so there’s a certain amount of ageism and stereotypes of older people, including the belief that older people are not sexual."

Which would be news to Ellen Barnard and Myrtle White, co-owners of Madison, Wisonsin’s “sexuality resource center,” A Woman’s Touch, a boutique on Williamson Street that has a cache of different strengths of reading glasses at the front counter, so its older customers can browse through some of the book and movie titles the store stocks: “A Celebration of Sex After 50,” “Still Doing It: Women and Men over 60 Write About Their Sexuality,” “Dr. Ruth’s Sex afer 70,” and “Ageless Desire.”